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Family scapegoats with years of healing: what events or thoughts precipitated your full acceptance of your family's narcissistic dynamic? Can you share your inner thoughts as you reached it? How do we know when we have reached full acceptance?

Last Updated: 19.06.2025 17:01

Family scapegoats with years of healing: what events or thoughts precipitated your full acceptance of your family's narcissistic dynamic? Can you share your inner thoughts as you reached it? How do we know when we have reached full acceptance?

In that sense, acceptance is strongly related to building awareness.

You’ll know you've reached full acceptance when you receive a hoover and send it straight to spam/trash without an emotional reaction, or a second thought about it.

The family's “in group” do not have intimate relationships. They are transactional and look down on each other. In other words, you aren't missing anything.

☆ what's the thing that made u fell in love with your bias?

Your life is better in every single way without them.

You don't owe them anything.

They don't love you.

How much of lounge pianists playing is from repertoire, and how much is improvised?

You will never be enough no matter what you do. At best, they will make backhanded compliments or just ignore you.

The most important things to realize:

When you recognize your own darkness, you will see it in them, and see them for who they actually are as people. Then it will become easy to drop them from your life.

When a black man and a white woman have a child, does the child become white? If a white man and a black woman have a child, does the child become black?

Recognizing the darkness in yourself allows you to see it very clearly in others. A narcissist is consumed with darkness. That is: deceit, sadism, and ego.

They enjoy hurting you.